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Posts Tagged ‘courage’
Saturday, September 8th, 2012
Sometimes in our personal or professional lives we need help. Champions count on coaches and mentors to enhance their success and we should do the same thing. However, when the help your getting isn’t helpful, don’t put up with it. Change it.
My girlfriend and her husband struggled in their marriage for years. They finally decided to get help but their first experience with a marriage counselor wasn’t helpful. They tried someone else…still not helpful. They tried a third time and finally found someone without an agenda who actually listened to them. They’re doing much better these days. I wonder what would’ve happened if they stuck with the first person.
When it comes to the coaches/mentors in your life, don’t settle for ‘good enough’. Have the courage to keep looking until the help you’re getting is great.
Bottom line: If your help isn’t helpful, get different help!
Tags: change, choices, courage, success
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Wednesday, May 2nd, 2012
My 25 year old daughter came home from work the day after getting a major hair cut and said, “Mom, you won’t believe this but I was standing in line at Starbucks this morning and a random lady came up to me and told me she loved my hair!”
That random lady made her day because she was a ‘random’ lady. It’s one thing to compliment your family, co-workers, and friends; it’s another thing to compliment a stranger. With a stranger, there’s nothing in it for you and the impact can be powerful, more powerful than you realize.
So the next time you notice something that impresses you about someone or a group of people, especially people you’ll probably never see again, get up the courage to tell them. Be that random voice. It could be the feedback that changes their day.
Tags: choices, communication, courage, feedback, happiness
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Wednesday, October 26th, 2011
Sometimes people disappoint us. Sometimes we disappoint ourselves. Sometimes life is overwhelmingly unfair and we struggle to cope. We feel paralyzed, wishing we could just run away. The battle is bigger than we are and it exhausts us. Sometimes we find ourselves wallowing in the misery of the whole mess, waiting for things to change. We want to be rescued. Where’s the knight in shining armor when you need him the most?
I think this is normal. It’s life. Be it a relationship challenge, a job challenge, or a health challenge, life can be unfair, even mean. But the challenges we face don’t define us; how we choose to move forward defines us. So when life kicks you in the face, go ahead and wallow in misery for a while. And then get over it!
Don’t become a victim of circumstance. Don’t focus on what you can’t change. Decide on one thing you CAN do and move forward. Please don’t wait for someone to rescue you. Sure, lean on your support system to help bolster your resolve, but rescue yourself. Believe in the value of your life and find the courage to take a step forward. It’s time to get excited about the next chapter.
Don’t run away, your life is waiting for you.
Tags: adversity, choices, coping, courage, life
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Wednesday, May 26th, 2010
A close friend recently ended a relationship with the man she loves because he really isn’t available to her. Their connection was compromised from the beginning but over the two years they were “together” she developed a strong emotional connection to him. Basically, she just chose to appreciate what was working and ignore the rest. Well, not any more. She finally decided to stop the madness and walk away and I think she is brave. She didn’t walk into another relationship. She walked into nothing and nothing isn’t easy. She’s alone and she is missing what she had. Most of us are too chicken to do that. Most of us would rather have something that works OK than take a chance on the unknown. She told me she is worried that no one will ever really love her because she’s 46 and has made some mistakes. She may have even used the word “baggage”.
Please don’t ever think that way!!!! A great friend recently told me that “flawed” people are the best because they have humility and compassion and perspective. It’s never about where you’ve been. Life is always about what you have learned and where you are headed. So have some courage and get excited about the possibilities.
Tags: courage, life, relationships
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Tuesday, April 27th, 2010
We are sometimes afraid of what we haven’t done or don’t understand. The social media world is like that for me. I’ve been out there…sort of. But I didn’t really get it until I went to a conference in Orlando this past weekend called Extreme Business Makeovers 2010 (XBM). On the surface, this conference is designed to help entreprenuers move to a higher level of business success. However, XBM steps past that and motivates everyone to the highest level of personal success. The connections are incredible. The founders, Thom Scott and Bob Burg (from the book The Go-Giver) bring in a cast of characters that flood you with possibilities. And they teach you “how” on any topic. So I learned about networking and social media and I learned to jump in and try….fearlessly.
Videos are next and I’m ready cuz once you move out of the box, your thinking never goes back in.
Tags: courage, motivation, social media
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Friday, November 6th, 2009
Is it really too late to become what you could have been? Woulda…coulda…shoulda…didn’t. What…are you dead? At what point do we give up on our dreams and settle into mediocrity? Is it when we find ourselves firmly entrenched in that marriage that barely works? Is it when we have children and we start putting our eggs in their basket? What are the things you wish you did? Why not go back to school? Go ahead and take that trip. Sure, do the Peace Corps thing. Really…why not?
Oh yeah, it would be hard. You could lose everything you have, right. Well, it would be hard…that’s called living. And truthfully, you probably wouldn’t lose everything you have…not if you are honest. Yes, you could make a mess of it. So what? That’s how great things happen. And think of the lives that you’d come in contact with that you’d somehow impact. Oh yeah, that’s it!!! I think you are selfish to stay your current, safe, boring course…there are people out there who would benefit if you just decided to be brave. And don’t give me the “I made a commitment” excuse. Life isn’t supposed to be a jail term…if the commitment is bad for your soul…move on, learn from it…start living. And don’t wait for tomorrow…that’s like playing russian roulette with your life. There are no guarantees for tomorrow…there is today though. And, it’s not too late.
Tags: adversity, attitude, centered, courage, life
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