Is it selfish to put yourself first?

What’s most important to you?  Faith?  Family?  Friends?  Career?  Are you driven to be a great parent or the top performer at work?  Do the needs of others often take priority over your personal needs?  Do you have a hard time saying, “No?”  If so, you’re in good company.

Many people think there’s honor in putting others first.  After all, they get to brag about the sacrifices they’re making by doing everything they can to please all the people all the time, right?  There’s a significant sympathy factor included when they behave like that which can make them feel good about it in the short run.  However, in the long run they end up feeling like doormats…exhausted, stressed out, unhealthy, beat-up doormats.  What’s so admirable about that?

No, if you want to accomplish great things, you have to change your thinking.  In reality, you are better equipped to serve others when you value yourself enough to make your personal health and well-being a priority.  In other words, it’s UN-selfish to put yourself first. Honestly, it’s the most UN-selfish thing you can do.

People who live in the zone, i.e., eat healthy, sleep enough and work out, feel good about themselves and because they feel good about themselves, they’re better able to handle stress, they’re more patient and they have more energy.   It’s a win/win.

No one will value your time more than you do so stop being a victim to the endless demands of the world and start taking care of #1 (that would be you).

Try these idea:

  • Devote the first hour of every day to your health and well-being…even if it means getting up at 5:00.
  • Build relationships with like-minded, positive people who support your goals.
  • Say “No” more often.  Sometimes “No” means “Yes” when it comes to your priorities…never feel guilty about that.
  • Sleep at least 7 hours/night.  Lack of sleep shortens your lifespan, reduces concentration and contributes to over-eating.  Come on, turn off the TV and go to bed.
  • When you’re struggling, don’t give up; get help.  There’s nothing weak about getting help.  Working through something tough will make you better, stronger and happier…all of which mean you will have more to offer the world.

Putting yourself first isn’t selfish.  It’s selfless and you’re worth it.

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