Archive for June, 2010

Great Leadership

Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

The more time I spend with the leaders of various companies, the more I recognize some common traits among the best.  Great leaders, it turns out, have three things in common.  They treat everyone with respect.  They are driven to do their best.  And they do the right thing just because it’s the right thing to do.  The third rule is the most critical because leaders who do the right thing just because it’s the right thing to do have the most influence.  It’s one thing to do the right thing for a specific purpose, like increasing employee retention or meeting quarterly goals.  It’s another thing all together to do the right thing just because it represents who you are and what you believe.  Leaders in this second group are genuine.  They care about their employees and empower them to succeed.  They build relationships, welcome feedback and take initiative.  As a result, their employees trust them.  They have influence because they earned it by serving the people who choose to be part of their vision.  These leaders are exceptional and their companies are great places to work. 

So if you want to be successful in business, treat everyone with respect, do your best and above all else, do the right thing…just because its the right thing to do.

Teaching an old dog new tricks

Friday, June 18th, 2010

A year ago I was driving 8 hours to a basketball tournament with my son and some of his teammates.  I suffered through their choice of music for many hours over those four days, only complaining if the language of a particular song  was unusually inappropriate.   I survived.

Yesterday, I picked up my mother for lunch and just blocks from her home she exclaimed, “What are you listening to?!”   I had the radio on my son’s station and he wasn’t in the car!

My son’s radio station had become MY radio station.  Imagine that!  I have spent so many hours in the car, driving him to practices and tournaments that I’ve learned to love…not like…but love his music.  So I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks.  This, of course, only proves the point that we are influenced by our environment throughout our lives.  We are always affected by the company we keep. 

It also follows that our habits and patterns can be changed if we really want to change them.   I used to dread swim workouts until my coach suggested I swim every day for two weeks.  I tried that.  Surprisingly all of that time in the pool gave me a better feel for the water and now I look forward to it.

So if you don’t think you like spinach…eat more of it.  If you don’t like to get up early….Ok, maybe there are some limits to this line of thinking. :)

Alone

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

By definition, ALONE means “to be isolated, without others or anything else.”  That’s not what I’m referring to.  You’d have to live on an island to be that alone.  We have friends and family.  We have careers and hobbies.  But what about a great connection with someone you love?  What about someone you want to walk through this life with?  What about someone who honestly sees you and thinks you are precious?  What about someone who encourages you to be more of who you are?  What about someone you can wrap yourself up in after a hard day and feel whole again?

It’s hard to be alone.  It’s easier to compromise on the dream and settle for someone who can give you pieces of a great connection.  It’s as if we think something is better than nothing.  That might be true when it comes to clothing but when it comes to spending the rest of your life with someone, think again.  You have to believe you are worth the dream, otherwise you will find yourself in a relationship…but still alone.