October 11th, 2014
The food industry is a highly competitive multi-billion dollar machine that’s bombarding us with messages showing beautiful, happy, skinny people eating junk food. The subliminal message is: If you want to be like them, eat this.
In the 1700′s we consumed about 4 lbs of sugar per person per year. That number jumped to 18 lbs in the 1800′s. Today it’s over 100 lbs! Sweet drinks and processed food are the major culprits…sugar (corn syrup, fructose, brown rice syrup, etc…) is hidden everywhere and it’s killing us. But, that’s okay because it’s great for corporate profits. We’re being manipulated.
You don’t have to fall in line. You can fight back and take control of your health. A great way to get started is to focus on the quality of your diet by taking a clean eating challenge for two weeks. It’s enough time to feel a change and enough time to examine your current habits.
1. No added sugar
2. No gluten
3. No processed foods
4. No dairy
5. No artificial sweeteners
What does that leave? Lean meats, chicken, fish, eggs, vegetables, fruit, potatoes & yams, brown rice, quinoa, nuts (except peanuts), beans, tea, stevia, and water…lots of water (64 oz/day).
I’ve just finished two weeks of clean eating and I’m amazed by a couple of things: First, my teeth are always clean. I feel like I just left the dentist’s office. And second, I’m sleeping more soundly. I also noticed that I was losing weight, not good for me so I countered by increasing my nut consumption (almond butter on apples is awesome). If you’re trying to lose a few pounds, skip the nuts and it will fall off of you.
In spite of the inconveniences (not having desert with my friends), I’ve liked it so much that I’m doing two more weeks. Why not do them with me? Your worth it.
February 17th, 2014
What’s most important to you? Faith? Family? Friends? Career? Are you driven to be a great parent or the top performer at work? Do the needs of others often take priority over your personal needs? Do you have a hard time saying, “No?” If so, you’re in good company.
Many people think there’s honor in putting others first. After all, they get to brag about the sacrifices they’re making by doing everything they can to please all the people all the time, right? There’s a significant sympathy factor included when they behave like that which can make them feel good about it in the short run. However, in the long run they end up feeling like doormats…exhausted, stressed out, unhealthy, beat-up doormats. What’s so admirable about that?
No, if you want to accomplish great things, you have to change your thinking. In reality, you are better equipped to serve others when you value yourself enough to make your personal health and well-being a priority. In other words, it’s UN-selfish to put yourself first. Honestly, it’s the most UN-selfish thing you can do.
People who live in the zone, i.e., eat healthy, sleep enough and work out, feel good about themselves and because they feel good about themselves, they’re better able to handle stress, they’re more patient and they have more energy. It’s a win/win.
No one will value your time more than you do so stop being a victim to the endless demands of the world and start taking care of #1 (that would be you).
Try these idea:
- Devote the first hour of every day to your health and well-being…even if it means getting up at 5:00.
- Build relationships with like-minded, positive people who support your goals.
- Say “No” more often. Sometimes “No” means “Yes” when it comes to your priorities…never feel guilty about that.
- Sleep at least 7 hours/night. Lack of sleep shortens your lifespan, reduces concentration and contributes to over-eating. Come on, turn off the TV and go to bed.
- When you’re struggling, don’t give up; get help. There’s nothing weak about getting help. Working through something tough will make you better, stronger and happier…all of which mean you will have more to offer the world.
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. It’s selfless and you’re worth it.
December 27th, 2013
The final weekend of 2013 is upon us. It’s the weekend when several of the news and entertainment shows do a “year in review” program, highlighting the year’s best and worst events. Many of these events will likely show up in history books and maybe future generations will learn from our mistakes or be inspired by our successes. In theory, the world should be a better place because of the lessons of history, including the history of 2013.
These end-of-year shows are interesting to watch but I’m always surprised by the number of events from the year that have already become distant memories. Clearly, the things that don’t impact us directly quickly fade into the background. But how about the things that do impact us directly? How about your life and the lives of those around you? Maybe the events of your personal life didn’t make a news reel, but they’re still part of history and their lessons are important. The life you lived in 2013 has the potential to make 2014 better…if you take the time to reflect. So find a quiet place this weekend and ask yourself the following questions (suggestion: get a journal, record your answers and make it an annual event):
- What do I want to remember…good and bad?
- What am I most proud of?
- What would I have done differently? (hindsight is a gift)
- Who do I wish I spent more time with? Less time with?
- What did I do too much of?
- What should I have done more of?
- What do I want to change in 2014?
The answers to these questions will help center you and position you to move into the new year with confidence. Whether 2013 was a good year or not, doesn’t matter nearly as much as what you do with the knowledge you gained by living through it. You matter. Never underestimate the impact you have, good or bad, on the people you meet and the paths you cross.
Because of 2013, together, we can make the world a better place in 2014.
November 18th, 2013
Your life has a rhythm. There’s a flow to the way you move through the day which includes certain things you always do, things like brushing your teeth, showering, wearing a seat belt, etc… It doesn’t matter if you’re in the middle of a crisis or on a long vacation…you do these things. I like to call them non-negotiables.
You always do them because they’re important. You’ve made them a priority. My list of non-negotiables includes an early workout, a shower, brushing my teeth, flossing, drinking lots of water and eating lots of fruits and vegetables. I might compromise on sleep once in a while and I eat too many sweets more often than I’d like to admit but I don’t compromise when it comes to my list of non-negotiables. They’re the foundation of my rhythm.
I’ve learned that when my rhythm supports me, I feel centered, giving me more energy for everything and everyone else. When I’m centered I also carry less stress and feel happier…consistently happier.
So think about the non-negotiables in your life. What do you always do? Do your habits support you? Are you a priority in your life? Remember, no one will value your time more than you do.
Sustainable happiness comes from creating a healthy rhythm.
November 10th, 2013
The volume of “beauty” images that cross our paths these days is mind-boggling. What was once limited to television and movies, now infiltrates our lives non-stop because of our gadgets…computers, smart phones, tablets, etc… What’s the impact of all those images? Do they affect our self-esteem? Do they affect our behavior?
According to the American Society of Aesthetic Plastic Surgery over 10 million cosmetic procedures were performed in 2012. That’s a lot of people spending a lot of money to look better. It’s a 250% increase since 1997.
In Hollywood, actors and actresses have always felt the pressure to fit a specific image because, generally speaking, getting old isn’t good for business. “Enhancing” their bodies has been the norm. Is it becoming our norm? Maybe the bigger question is: Does it make us happy?
You’re happy if you love the life you’re living. You’re happy if you believe in yourself from the inside out…not the outside in. Outside in thinking is like designing a great book cover without paying attention to the content. What’s the point? In the end, no one cares about the cover. In the end it’s all about the content.
Break away from all of that external noise and focus on who you are and where you’re headed. Surround yourself with friends who believe in you and find ways to help others believe in themselves. If you do that, you’ll develop a happy heart and a happy heart beams with warmth and confidence…the best kind of beautiful.
October 10th, 2013
Imagine there’s a team being assembled to participate in a one day, “idea sharing” retreat. Team members will be paid $100,000.00 each for their time. Of course it would be held at some amazingly fantastic place, all expenses paid. To qualify, you must answer one question. If your answer is unique, you’re in. It’s that simple. The question is:
How are you different?
I’m different because:
- I’m tall
- I teach Pilates
- I’m an author
- I’m divorced three times
- I have a gay brother
- I was anorexic
- I was bulimic
- I’m a rape survivor
- I’m an Ironman
- I like strangers
- I believe in happy endings
My experiences, good and bad, have given me a unique perspective on life. Without a doubt, living through them has made me more compassionate and less judgmental but I’m still limited by what I don’t know. Imagine the wisdom I’d gain if I understood your experiences.
How are you different? Are you shy? Are you a pragmatist? Do you get depressed? Are you musical? Are you super smart? Do you have fears? Have you made mistakes, big ones? These things are important.
Instead of focusing on being similar and fitting in, we should focus on being authentic. If we can drum up the courage to share who we are with the world, maybe we can change the world.
Be brave enough to be different.
October 8th, 2013
Starting tomorrow means we can continue doing whatever we’ve been doing for one more day.
Everyone likes a fresh start, i.e., a new day, a new week or a new month and by the time October and November roll around, it makes sense to just wait for a new year, right?
Do you do this? Sadly, I must confess to employing this strategy too many times to count. It’s appealing because it takes the pressure off. Picking a date in the future is a license to stay on the current course until the “fresh start” date arrives. If you’ve been eating badly, you can continue eating badly. If you’ve been sedentary, you can remain sedentary. If the house is a mess, it can stay a mess. You don’t have to change…yet. What a relief!
It may be a relief but unfortunately this kind of pattern is also a trap because while waiting for the magic date, the hole you’ve dug tends to get deeper. It’s how 5lbs in November turn into 10lbs by January.
If I’m honest, I recognize that I utilize this approach because I enjoy my bad habits. I like snacking in front of the TV. I like snacking in my office. I like snacking in the car. Over the years, I’ve conditioned myself to associate these activities with food to the point where my decisions aren’t even slightly driven by appetite. Instead, they’re driven completely by habit. It’s amazing how mindless I can be while taking something out of a bag and putting it in my mouth.
Well, that was then and this is TODAY. Today I didn’t snack in the car (that was tough). Today I didn’t snack in the office (tougher). Today I didn’t snack in front of the TV or my computer (toughest).
I’ve been taking care of TODAY for a week now and it’s getting easier. I haven’t be perfect, especially in front of the TV but then I catch myself and instead of saying, “Oh well, I’ll start over tomorrow,” I reset in the moment. The thought is, “It’s still today and this day matters.”
It’s working partly because I expect it to be tough and partly because it’s just TODAY. I feel like I can do anything for one day and as for tomorrow…I’ll deal with tomorrow when it gets here.
Come on, people! Nothing changes by waiting for tomorrow. Start today.
September 6th, 2013
This morning a good friend of mine posted a question on Facebook:
“Why do you race?”
She was looking for motivation from her support group of athletes. My gut response was, “You race because it gives you confidence and that confidence carries over into every aspect of life.”
But that’s not right. Confidence is a by-product of racing, not the reason. Anyone can earn fitness and self-confidence by working out and eating healthy. Racing is bigger than that.
I think I race because it stretches me. It makes me uncomfortable. There are so many unknowns on race day. Was my training good enough? Was my taper timed right? Will I have equipment problems? Did I eat early enough to avoid digestive issues? Honestly, when I stand at the starting line, I’m filled with fear and anticipation. It’s damn exciting!
Our children experience these feelings on a regular basis. Life is constantly changing for them. When you think about it, their lives are filled with anticipation…first day of school, first date, first performance, first time away from home, first time driving, first job, etc… Childhood is exciting.
Adulthood, on the other hand, can be pretty mundane. The “firsts” are replaced by routine. The energy that defined you “back in the day” is a distant memory. Instead of driving your way through life, you’ve become a passenger…watching the scenery go by. Come on!! You weren’t born to settle. You need to wake up. Adulthood should be exciting.
Racing makes life exciting. Just enter a 5K or a Tough Mudder or a mini-triathlon and things will change. You’ll have to train. You’ll doubt yourself. You’ll worry and on race day you’ll use the bathroom three times. Your emotions will be on over-drive but it’s worth every second of angst because you get to stand at the starting line. There’s only one feeling that trumps the “alive” feeling experienced at the starting line of an event and that’s the “Holy sh**, I did it!!” feeling of crossing the finish line.
I race because it makes adulthood exciting.
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